A friend or family member is not professionally trained to help you grow, heal and change. It's likely that your friends and family have been giving you their best advice and if it were sufficient, you probably wouldn't be reading this. Sometimes friends and family members want to maintain your relationship as it is, which means they may give you advice that keeps you from changing. A trained therapist is interested in helping you find your own answers by helping you connect with what is true and right for you.

The benefits of therapy have been demonstrated in numerous studies. In a review by Martin Seligman he found that:  Psychotherapy produced positive effects in 92% of respondents  The longer people stayed in therapy, the better their results.  People that were active in therapy did better than those that were passive. People that actively engaged by being open, asking questions, and following up did better.  For most psychological conditions, people in therapy alone did as well as people who had medication plus therapy.  Respondents who stayed in therapy only until insurance coverage allowed did worse than those who stayed until their concerns resolved.

You really need to meet me face-to-face to get a good idea of what I’m like as a person and as a professional. At our first meeting you should keep these questions in mind:  How easy is it to talk to her?  Does she seem like somebody I could trust?  Is she really listening to me?  Does she seem to know what she is doing?  Does she seem confident and competent?  Do I feel comfortable with her?  Could I ever show this person the deepest, ugliest parts of myself?  Does she seem to have the capacity to handle me?  Mostly, "Do I like her?"

It would be so handy for me to have an exact answer to this question, but unfortunately, I don't. There are many factors to consider, such as: What sort of life have you had before coming to therapy? Why are you deciding now to come to therapy? How long has the problem been in the making? How have you coped with the problem up until now? How have your ways of coping compromised your deeper sense of aliveness and well-being? What are your goals or hopes for therapy? How will we know when they have been met? I know, lots of questions here. Some of these questions cannot be answered right away; they are answered during treatment through discovery and understanding. Here's how you will gain the most benefit from therapy. 1. Look at the money you spend on therapy as an investment in your future. The benefits you experience will justify the expense. 2. Be an active participant to your fullest capacity. Your therapy will take work - on your part and on mine. If you don't put honest effort forward you won't feel as if you are getting your money's worth and you will likely resent the cost.

Therapy is a unique process whereby I create a safe space for you to decide your unique truth. In order to do this, I must develop a respectful relationship with you so that you feel that you are able to talk to me. Once this is established, I work to determine where you are in your journey toward healing and match my approach to you. For example, if you know that your job is a problem, but you aren't ready to quit, then we talk about how it's a problem and what that's like for you. We do not talk about why you won't quit and how you need to be moving on. I don't get to make the decisions for your life. I'm there to motivate you and mirror back times when you are lost in your journey. When you are ready to make change, then we undergo the process of deciding how you have stumbled in the past and what you can do to overcome those hurdles in the future.

Sessions range in length from 50-60 minutes. Sometimes people schedule 1.5 sessions, which is 90 minutes. These longer sessions work really well for couples.

Yes. By law I am bound to protect your confidentiality. The exceptions to this are related to child or elder abuse, a threat to harm another person or if you are in danger of self harm. If you want to use a third party payer to pay for therapy it will be necessary to provide the information required by your insurance company which will likely include a diagnosis. If this is the case I will discuss with you what is disclosed to an insurer.

No, but here’s the way it works: After evaluating your situation, we will decide if you need to speak with a psychiatrist who is a MD and is allowed to prescribe medicine. If we decide that medication might be beneficial, I have some very competent psychiatrists I work with. It’s always a good idea for someone who is taking medication to have his or her therapist (that’s me) in contact with the doctor who is prescribing medicine. That way you have a team working together on your behalf. Of course, this communication between therapist and psychiatrist only happens if you give written permission for it to happen.

Sex therapist receive additional training in a variety of topics related to human sexuality to include, but not limited to, sexual disorders, sexual abuse, anatomy, sexually transmitted infections, sexual and gender orientation, and fetish behaviors. Sex therapy is specifically designed to help you reflect upon areas of concern where your sexuality is concerned and what, if any, change you desire to make in these areas.