Lessons in Love

Lessons in Love

Last week we explored ways to hold and heal from the grief of broken love. This week we will explore how to heal from grief that follows the death of a loved one. I was 8 years old when my grandfather died. This was my first experience with death. I can still see...
When Sex Becomes Unsexy

When Sex Becomes Unsexy

As a couples counselor and a sex therapist, I frequently hear from both couples and individuals that sex is, at best, no longer a priority and, at worst, a chore or something to be avoided. By the time couples make it in to see me to address their sexual relationship,...
Understanding Your Sexual Values

Understanding Your Sexual Values

Have you ever noticed that you identify some sexual behavior as good and other sexual behavior as bad? To be clear, I’m not talking about harmful acts that most would agree are bad or wrong to do to another. I’m talking about the reason why you have decided that oral...
What’s the big deal with porn?

What’s the big deal with porn?

Contracts in couple relationships govern things like monogamy, household responsibilities, care giving duties of children, sexual expression and yes, pornography. Pornography is often a polarizing topic that touches value sets across multiple domains (i.e. marriage,...
Mindful Living: Habit Setting

Mindful Living: Habit Setting

Welcome and we are excited to share the first edition of the Togetherness Times with you. While a weekly publication, you will find that each month is centered around a theme. In the spirit of the New Year, January’s theme is about mindful living through successful...